Zac is now 1 month 9 days old. How time flies. During the first month with aunty Foong around I was enjoying the moments, was telling myself and papa that 'hey it wasn't that scary after all'. After aunty Foong left, the reality finally kicked in. I was so tired the first few days that I didn't have the mood to do anything, not updating my blog account or reading any of your posts etc. Apart from looking after a baby, I had to do housework, do dishes, look after a hyper and attention seeking 2 year old, I was simply exhausted.
Having to adjust myself again to such hectic lifestyle was certainly no easy task, especially at my age. On the first night alone with Zac I was so scared. I wasn't sure if I could manage him alone. I thought I came up with a good idea by letting him latch whenever he was hungry thinking that I could get some sleep, you know where people always say you can let the baby suck sideways while you are both sleeping and you can continue to sleep?! It didn't work! He sucked for like 5 - 10 mins and then fell asleep or puke. 30 mins later he wanted to suck again and this went on for the entire night. I was horrified and zombified. The subsequent nights I didn't let him latch anymore. Although he wasn't sleeping through, at least he will sleep for 2-3 hours before the next feed and it was definitely much better than latching (although I still had to wake up to express frequently) and papa could help in between.
The first few nights was tough. My body was trying to adjust to the new schedules and I almost gave up. Thankfully it got easier after a few nights. Although occasionally Zac refused to sleep at night (and sleep all day), he wasn't that difficult to deal with. We had to introduce him to the pacifier (something we didn't have to do with Hayley) as he would scream very loudly the moment he was awake asking for milk that he would wake the sister. This boy got no patience!
I also had to learn all over again on how to bath a baby, picking up his signals on how he liked to be carried, what the different type of cries meant etc.. things I have long forgotten. As things got easier with Zac, it was a different story with Hayley.
We're not sure if she's trying to seek attention or she's just simply getting naughtier as she gets older. Our main problem with her is that she is a very picky eater. You can feed her something be it porridge or rice and it will take her ages to finish it. You can give her a slice of apple and again it will take her ages. Sometimes she will pretend to vomit and actually end up really vomitting out the food to tell us that she didn't like it. A few times we lost our patience (because it is becoming a habit) and actually smacked her but she will still repeat the same the next day. She's also very hard headed and will not listen to anything we say. She is really testing our patience. We constantly tell her how much we love her and spent time with her so she won't feel left out. I also heard from a lot of mummies with 2 kids telling me the same thing and they assured me that it will get better over time and all I can do now is hope that it will come sooner.
And oh, here are some photos of the little boy:
My boy who loves to smile, and he's got a dimple too just like me :-)
A cute little cake on his fullmoon courtesy of aunty Jessie
Zac with aunty Foong. Aunty Foong cried the day she left as she really loved Zac :-(
She even called the following day to ask about Zac and me.
Zac at the fullmoon party, sleeping through.
9 comments:
Ohhh... such a sweet 'smirky' baby, lovely Zac!
Ehhh.... so nice of Auntie Foong to call for your regards after she off duty!!! I have enough with 2 rascals, or else I will definitely ask you for her contact!^-^
Hang on there, stay strong! I know it's horrible to take care of a suckling baby and a terrible tot! I couldn't give any advice as I also suffering of horrendous backache after taking care of my 2 sprouts. Wish everything will turn better as soon as Hayley starts schooling, all the best my friend!
Keep well and grab any opportunity to rest!
Wah... Zac's smile ada gaya,man!!! I like the dimple too...watch out ladies!!!
Yeah the 2nd month is really the scary part where we are adjusting ourselves to the routine and to baby. I was totally freaked out when my confinement lady went home too. But u know what, you will feel a lot stronger and really proud of yourself each day that you managed to do it at the end of the day. I cried a lot during this period...when the baby was difficult but its all worth it!
Get hubby to take over when he comes back and u rest for a while...?
omg my Zack has the exact same baju!! cept his is just a tee.
should put them next to each other like brothers. LOL
i sure hope i have as much determination and energy as you when i decide to have my #2.
i am very very very afraid.
it's like...with one baby i'm already so tired (and i'm not even bf-ing!) imagine...2...
(sometimes i wunder those who have 3, 4 or 5...how do they do it?)
nevertheless, hang tough mama!
Alice, yeah aunty Foong is very nice, before she leave, she even reminded me many many times not to take ice drinks, eat cooling stuff, etc. She is so worried about me and Zac. Even with 2 I also surrender, if you have no 3, I am going to salute you! But if you do decide to have no 3, am happy to recommend aunty Foong if she's not retired yet :-)
Leona, he's a smiley baby. Loves to smile :-). 2nd month really tough man but it is getting better la. Don't dare to imagine when I am back at work. How to juggle 2 kids + work + housework. Can faint!
Pei Chyi, what? same shirt?! You say la, scary or not?? hahaha. But it's true leh, not tying to scare you, having 1 and 2 really very very different man. But you have Maria to do housework etc so should not be that bad la. But you are right, I salute those with 3 or more kids. They are 'chiu yan'.
Congratulations to your newborn baby Zac! What a cool name..reminded me of one movie, the hero was very heroic!
wah he is cute little pie hehe
lebatnya rambut - errr i dont think u should latch nanti dia nak gayut forever you - just bagi when he hungry ja la errr but who am i to talk about breastfeeding hehe
anyway hang on there in no time he ll be running and he wont even want to play with you :D
Take it easy. U will soon get to adjust. For me, I set up a routine n i stick to it. meaning my baby was fed on time..specific time and not as and when he is hungry. because i got to work..so having a routine for me was easier..n also easier for my maid.
Reanaclaire, thank you. How was your Korea trip?
Ermayum, definitely no gayut for him. Pump and feed via a bottle works well for me :-)
Little lamb, how do you make a baby stick to a routine? Whenever he's hungry he will cry like be was abused, the whole neighbourhood can hear him. SOmetimes he will ask for milk after 2 hrs when he's supposed to drink after 3.
oh so cute.
wow reading your post make me think that being a mom is hard .huhu
but its a blessing too, hang in there!
first time visit here, come from alice law blog. takecare
he is a cute baby:)
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